Stealing another person’s special moment is the fastest way to ruin a friendship. There are some lines you can’t cross, and trying to steal the thunder at another couple’s wedding is one of the biggest. Apparently, not everyone sees it that way, and it has caused a massive issue for a young couple. A woman shared her story in Reddit’s AITAH forum, wanting validation. She and her boyfriend planned to get engaged, but he chose a terrible moment, and now it feels like their future is in jeopardy.
The original poster explained that she and her boyfriend were preparing to attend their close friends’ wedding. Her boyfriend had joked with the groom-to-be, saying he thought it would be hilarious to propose at their wedding. OP gave that a hard pass and told him under no circumstances should he even think about pulling a stunt like that. Guess what? He didn’t listen.
OP’s boyfriend asked the DJ to play “their song” and it all went downhill.
“All of a sudden he grabs a fork, stands up and begins clanging on a glass. Immediately the whole dining room looks over. I stand up and whisper the words’ not. Right. Now,'” she wrote. “His face drops and he yells a mix of ‘I’m sorry, I was just joking.’ After he sat back down I verbatim said ‘let them have their moment, let’s make this our own.’ He wouldn’t even look at me.”
She added, “He sent me a long text about how hard it was to get the ring, how he felt rejected by his closest person and that I embarrassed him.”
OP is worried she overreacted, but Redditors sided with her.
“NTA. It was bad taste for him to propose at the wedding. It would have been unfair to the bride and groom not to mention tacky. He needs to get over it and move on,” one person wrote. “Out of all the possible scenarios to propose he chose the worst options. You did the right thing by stopping him. No one knew he was going to propose so he shouldn’t feel embarrassed.”
She received a resounding swell of support from the comment section and posted an update about how things progressed.
“I asked why he neglected our conversation from months before. He said that the groom and their group of friends had egged him on in private since (not to propose at the wedding, but to do it soon). He didn’t originally plan on doing it at the wedding. He’s had the ring with him for about a month, never had any real plan, and wanted it to just be spontaneous,” she explained.
“He told me he got caught up in the atmosphere of the wedding, saw his best friend with his girl and couldn’t stop picturing us in the same scenario. His urge overran his common sense (in his terms) and he made a choice he ultimately wishes he could take back. It very much spiraled from there,” OP added.
OP wrote that she and her boyfriend are now reevaluating their relationship and where to go from here. It will take a lot of healing, but they hope to work things out.
“Moving forward, I will do every ounce of weighing before I enter what should be the most important commitment you can make to a person you love and I’ll keep a more careful eye on his behaviors and how he may react to averse situations,” she wrote.
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